Do we teach our children to be polite?

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Politeness Aspects

Perhaps courtesy is the easiest to explain and learn meeting her from the earliest childhood. This is a virtue that our parents, our teachers, and even our friends and people close to us teach us.

It consists of rules of courtesy , social agreements that are valid for the given society, actions, words and way of speaking, which are accepted as culturally and socially acceptable norms.


Courtesy comes from the Latin word “politus”, which means smooth, smooth, shiny, yellow. The meaning of the word means acknowledging others and the opportunity to be treated as individuals with our own feelings.

Of course, there is a general notion of “courtesy” that is universally recognized, but if we look closely – each culture has its own rules of courtesy.

It’s also good to be able to differentiate between courtesy and respect. The former can be the external form of the latter, and respect always has a deeper internal meaning.


Politeness should be expressed in certain formulas such as greetings and polite words / hello, how are you, please, thank you, etc. /, as and from a certain attitude – a smile and eye contact with the one with whom we communicate.

We define politeness as a code of conduct obtained in the process of formal and non-formal learning. Politeness must be acquired.


The purpose of courtesy is to facilitate social relationships . We do not communicate with the same intonation with our parents, children, bosses, colleagues, strangers. We use the code of courtesy to inform other participants in communication how we actually see them. Our level of courtesy reflects our education, attitudes, and acquired manners.

Many cultural sub-societies have their own code of courtesy / a group of people who practice judo, karate, taekwondo or other sports express their courtesy in a certain way /.

When to start teaching children courtesy?

The sooner the better

We can start teaching a 3-year-old polite words, such as “thank you”, “please”, “welcome”, for example.

When it gets bigger, we start teaching it to give way, order, a toy to another child. Sharing is part of courtesy and respect.

Observance of our rules, as educators and patterns of behavior, is what our child sees and remembers.

We can remind him every second to say polite words, to give back his order and toys, but if we don’t do it ourselves, it just won’t work for him. It copies our attitude and behavior.

It is important to remember that the child needs help and navigation in virtues. It is generally accepted that courtesy is one of the first virtues a family teaches its child. It is no coincidence that we say that the first seven years of his life are extremely important.

The most important thing in teaching and practicing a virtue is perseverance . It is necessary for this to happen every day and in various situations in order to become a mechanism that the child, already as a formed person, will follow in your adult life.

How to teach children to be polite in the learning process?

There are basic postulates, statements that are important to explain to our children in early childhood.

Some of the following are:

  • To receive, you must give
  • Treat others the way you want them to treat you
  • Smile to be answered with a smile

These and other similar truths of life are associated with the virtues of courtesy and respect . In the process of learning, children exist in small communities / classes, groups /. Each group is a scale model of our society.

Preliminary clarifications

It is important to make a preliminary explanation and to “adjust” our watches . Not every child understands a virtue as we explain and practice it in the camp.

Sometimes a child’s understanding is more limited, which is understandable given his little life experience. In such cases, it is the teacher who expands the meaning and significance of the virtue.

We give the definition of the word – virtue. We explain it in simple words, then offer examples of their practical application.

Some teachers, depending on the age of the children, give the floor to the children, list examples from their daily lives. It is important that the examples are understandable and that children can perform these actions with ease. When a child does not understand something, he stops paying attention and loses interest.

Training in virtues requires patience, effort and motivation. Patience and motivation depend largely on the teachers, while the effort is expected to be made by the children themselves.

Rewarding effort is super necessary

It’s part of the motivation. Without rewarding in the initial stage of training in virtues, there is no way to achieve results and lasting effect.

Preferably the award should be moral , such as stickers, praise , words of approval, buying a book, running a theater or other type of entertainment that fosters aesthetic taste and attitude.

Sometimes, some virtues are challenging for children. Then we can play role-playing games, in which we can use politeness, respect or other virtue for clarity. When children do, they understand and learn immediately.

It’s also important to set age-appropriate requirements. Age-disproportionate expectations lead to negative or no results and discourage children from trying again.

How does LuckyKids contribute to polite learning?

LuckyKids has special know-how for nurturing virtues. We learn our campers of courtesy and respect, as we have a special methodology of teaching and consolidating them through practice.

It includes the following steps:

  • acquaintance with virtue / for example – courtesy /, as a concept.
  • telling a story related to the respective virtue.
  • discussion of the story, in order to explain in detail the moral side of the actions and words of the characters.
  • giving examples of our daily lives with the corresponding virtue.
  • practice during the day.
  • giving feedback at the end of the day; filling children’s stickers with stickers to encourage proper behavior.

And our biggest secret – we do this every day!

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